Asking for help can be challenging. In many cases, we learn that we need to be self-reliant and independent. Or perhaps we do not want to burden others with our problems.
Asking for help can be uncomfortable. We may not know how or who to ask help from. Or maybe it feels like a sign of weakness to ask for help.
There may be a multitude of other pieces that you may think or feel around the idea of asking for help based on our own learning, culture, environment, etc. With all these different ideas, thoughts, feelings, and messages it can be hard to know what to do.
So, let’s try an experiment. What if we flip the perspective, and instead look at asking for help as a sign of strength and courage.
- We are human and we all need help at times. Understanding that can help you take that step to ask for help. You are not alone in needing help. Other youth and even adults need help at times.
- Everyone deserves help or support. You are not an exception to this.
- Learn to recognize when you need help. There is wisdom in knowing when you need others to help.
- Be willing to ask. You may already have people in your life who are ready to help. At that point, it takes courage to reach out and say that you need support.
- Do not wait of for someone to ask! We all hope that people will notice that we are struggling, and some people will notice and reach out. It helps you and others if you take the first step and ask instead of putting on a brave face. You will be surprised to find that there are so many people out there who care!
- Keep asking. Sometimes you may have to keep asking to get the help you need. Please don’t give up. Keep reaching out. Find that trusted adult who you know will listen to you and work with you to find the help and support.
Humans are social creatures, and we are born to be in relationships with each other. Remember, there are people who care and they will be there for you!